The Four Keys to Self-Compassion
The first key to self-compassion is realizing that if we are feeling sorry for ourselves we will not generate self-compassion. We need to step out of victim consciousness where we…
What About the Children?
Children and Divorce Children are profoundly affected when their parents are in conflict. They are dependent on parents for well being and survival and are helpless to resolve any of…
The Many Faces of Denial and How to Rebuild Your Life
The many faces of denial often show themselves at the beginning of the relationship. Some will say, “I just didn’t pay attention,” or “I ignored the red lights.” When it…
Relationship Ending Brings Many Changes
What is it that we are so afraid of when our relationship ends? Is it the fear of being alone, afraid of loneliness? Are we afraid that no one else…
Surviving or Thriving! Your Choice!
Surviving divorce is one of the most difficult, stressful, confusing, chaotic and painful times in life. Getting through the process is challenging and has many ups and downs. Some people go…
Expensive Divorces and How to Manage Costs
People who are going through the splitting up of a household understand how expensive divorces can be. A two-income household is becoming one. Parties are expected to maintain a similar…
Anger is Often An Excuse
Anger seems to be a challenge many people are faced with when divorcing. Recently a student declared that she had anger issues. What exactly did that mean for her? “Well”…
Letting Go is a Difficult Process
Letting go of the pain, sadness, grief and the many challenging emotions involved in ending a relationship is always difficult. The proverb “Time heals all wounds” is categorically untrue. Time…
How’s your love life?
After my divorce people began asking me –“how’s your love life”? What they were asking about –was I dating anyone, had I found a new “love interest”?The love life that…
What is an Emotional Affair
An emotional affair is where you break the emotional bond with your partner and create one with someone else that has a lot of emotional energy attached to it, as…
