10 Ways to Help Support a Friend Through Divorce
I had no idea how to help as I watched my best friend go through a divorce. What could I say or do to make things better? I felt useless…
Enough and Perfect
Psychologists, theologians, and spiritual teachers often espouse that we are enough and perfect as we are. This idea has been popularized most recently in the work of Brene Brown who’s…
Three Steps to Stop Manipulating Ourselves
There are ways to increase positive, loving open-hearted connections with our partner, our friends. There are also ways to ensure that we increase our separation, disconnection, closed-heartedness. This is what…
The Four Keys to Self-Compassion
The first key to self-compassion is realizing that if we are feeling sorry for ourselves we will not generate self-compassion. We need to step out of victim consciousness where we…
What About the Children?
Children and Divorce Children are profoundly affected when their parents are in conflict. They are dependent on parents for well being and survival and are helpless to resolve any of…
The Many Faces of Denial and How to Rebuild Your Life
The many faces of denial often show themselves at the beginning of the relationship. Some will say, “I just didn’t pay attention,” or “I ignored the red lights.” When it…
Relationship Ending Brings Many Changes
What is it that we are so afraid of when our relationship ends? Is it the fear of being alone, afraid of loneliness? Are we afraid that no one else…
Surviving or Thriving! Your Choice!
Surviving divorce is one of the most difficult, stressful, confusing, chaotic and painful times in life. Getting through the process is challenging and has many ups and downs. Some people go…
Expensive Divorces and How to Manage Costs
People who are going through the splitting up of a household understand how expensive divorces can be. A two-income household is becoming one. Parties are expected to maintain a similar…
Anger is Often An Excuse
Anger seems to be a challenge many people are faced with when divorcing. Recently a student declared that she had anger issues. What exactly did that mean for her? “Well”…
