Divorce Adjustment Quiz Click on "Next" to get started 1. I like being the person I am Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 2. I can communicate with my ex or Soon-to-be-ex in a calm and rational manner Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 3. There are many things about my personality I would like to change Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 4. I feel like I am an attractive person Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 5. There are many things about my body I would like to change Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 6. I am relating and interacting in many new ways with people since my separation Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 7. Joining a singles group would make me feel I was a loser like them Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 8. I feel like unloading my feelings of anger and hurt upon my former love partner Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 9. I hope my former love partner is feeling as much or more emotional pain than I am Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 10. I am unable to control my emotions Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 11. I am afraid to trust people who might become love partners Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 12. I either have no appetite or eat continuously which is unusual for me Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 13. I have given up on my former love partner and getting back together Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 14. I feel very frightened inside Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 15. It is important that my family, friends, and associates be on my side rather than on my former love partner's side Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 16. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about dating Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 17. I have noticed my body weight is changing a great deal Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 18. I avoid people even though I want and need friends Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 19. I sigh a lot Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 20. I believe it is best for all concerned to have our love relationship end Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 21. I feel adequate as a fe/male love partner Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 22. Life is somehow passing me by Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 23. I am afraid of becoming emotionally close to another love partner Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 24. Even on the days when I am feeling good, I may suddenly become sad and start crying Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 25. I can't believe our love relationship is ending Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 26. I become upset when I think about my love partner dating someone Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 27. People want to have a love relationship with me because I feel like a lovable person Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 28. I feel comfortable going to social events even though I am single Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 29. I understand the reasons why our love relationship did not work out Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 30. I need to improve my feelings of self-worth about being a wo/man Almost Always Usually Sometimes Seldom Almost Never 31. What is your gender? Female Male Prefer not to say 32. >What do you do during normal work hours? Stay at home parent Physical/Active type of job Managerial job Desk Job Not currently working/Other 33. > Where are you in the divorce process? Please select your answer Considering divorce In the divorce process Divorced 34. How do you feel about your income versus expenses? There are a lot of different types of income and a lot of expenses. When you look at your bank account, in general, is there more money in it each month or less? Your answer to this will help us best help you address one of the most critical impacts of divorce. My income is significantly greater than my expenses My income is somewhat greater than my expenses My income is about the same as my expenses My income is somewhat less than my expenses My income is significantly less than my expenses 35. What do you think about YOUR debt? Two people might have the same amount of debt but perceive it very differently. What is your perception of your debt situation? I'm very worried about my debt I'm a little worried about my debts I think my debt is manageable I'm totally covered. I feel good about the debt that I have, if any. 36. Do you have money that is working for YOU? 401ks, investing in stocks, investing in a house, and so many other things help your money work for you so that you don't have to. In divorce, this may be something you lose or gets reduced significantly. Yes, I've invested well and I have multiple ways that my money is increasing Yes, I have one thing that is working for me. No, but I plan to start soon No, and I have no idea where to even begin. 37. Do you have a financial safety net? Life happens, and then a surprise bill hits. Can you absorb it? Yes, if a major expense hit I could probably cover it. I have a little bit of a cushion against expenses I would be in trouble if an unexpected expense was needed No, anything would be difficult for me 38. >Do you have kids? None 0-5 years old 6-12 years old 13-18 years old 19 or older 39. What level of conflict is/was there in the divorce? As the conflict in a divorce rises it has a higher impact on children. It is/was a very amicable separation/divorce There is/was some conflict but not much There is/was a fair amount of conflict in the separation/divorce It is/was a very high-conflict separation/divorce 40. How concerned are you about the effect of your divorce on your children? Skip this question if you don't have children Very concerned Somewhat concerned Not sure Not too concerned Not at all concerned 41. How would you describe your parenting situation with your ex? Select "Not Applicable" if you don't have children.Independent parenting is typically in high-conflict divorces in which the way in which children are raised is very different. Each parent makes their own choices, rules, routines, etc.Parallel parenting means that each parent has differences in choices, rules, and routines but they are similar and each parent is aware of the situation at the other parents house.Collaborative parenting means that the parenting is identical and both parents work hard to be consistent and cooperative with each other. Independent Parallel Collaborative Not Applicable 42. How well are you sleeping these days? Most nights are poor sleep Some nights are poor sleep Most nights I get decent sleep I always sleep well 43. How do you feel about what you are eating these days? I always eat healthy food I eat healthy food most of the time I eat unhealthy food less often than healthy food I rarely eat healthy food 44. How do you feel about how you are taking care of your body? It might be exercise, relaxation, etc. Whatever works for you I am doing something for my body most days of the week I am doing something for my body a few days of the week I do something for my body occasionally I rarely do something for my body 45. Do you have a daily routine that you follow? I get up at the same time most days I go to sleep at the same time most days I keep busy most days I eat regularly throughout the day 46. Do you have friends or family in your life that you can talk to about your divorce? Yes, I have a number of people that I can talk to Yes, I have one person that I can talk to No, I don't have anyone that I feel comfortable talking to about my divorce No, but I don't think I need to 47. Are you talking to a professional counselor/therapist/coach? Yes No, and I don't plan to No, but I would like to find someone that I feel comfortable with 48. How would you rate the communication between you and your ex or soon to be ex? Terrible It's not good It's okay Excellent 49. Do you know other people that have gone through divorce that you can talk to about yours? Yes, I know at least a few Yes, I know one No, and I don't want to No, but I want to 50. How optimistic are you for your future? I'm struggling to enjoy today, let alone the future I think I will be okay some day Each day is getting better I'm looking forward to starting a new chapter 51. How difficult has your divorce been for you? Very difficult Hard Some days good, some days bad Pretty easy Very easy 52. Do you know what you want to do with the rest of your life ? No idea, I haven't even thought about it I have some dreams that I am considering I have some things that I am starting I have started Rebuilding my future Every day I am actively creating my new future 53. Do you believe you will love someone again? No, I have no interest in being in a loving relationship ever again Not right now but maybe sometime in the future Maybe. Yes but it will take the right person Absolutely! I know there is someone great out there for me. Please fill in the comment box below. Thank you for completing the self-assessment. An email with your results will be sent to you shortly! You are on your way to a better life! Email address Name Phone Number Time's up Leave a Reply Cancel replyYou must be logged in to post a comment.
